'You're a home wrecker who won't leave me alone' : Stepmom Who Stole Husband From Another Woman Forbids Hubby To See Son From Previous Marriage Unless Her Children Are Included Too

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    Happy - Posted by u/Concerned Mother45 1 day ago 2 2 n AITA For Asking My Husband to Include Our Children When Spending Time with His Estranged Son?
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    Font - I am a 45-year-old has been married to my woman who husband, Fred, for 20 years. We have four children, including my 24-year-old stepson, James. When Fred and I first met, he was still married to James' mother, Lily. We fell in love, but we didn't do anything physical until after their divorce was final.
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    Font - I met James when he was five years old, and over the almost 20 years that I have known him, he has never liked me. Despite my best efforts to build a relationship with him, he has never shown any interest in getting to know me or his siblings.
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    Font - When James turned 18, he left home, and while he would occasionally call and spend time with Fred, he would never do so with me or our children. Recently, I asked Fred to include our children when he spends time with James, but James has not spoken to him since.
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    Font - Now, my mother-in-law, who has always favored Lily over me, has called me and accused me of being the AH for hurting James and Fred's relationship "even further."
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    Font - I understand that my request may have hurt James' feelings, but after almost two decades of trying to build a relationship with him, I feel that I have exhausted all other options. I love my husband and our children, and I want them to feel included and valued in our family. It's not fair for James to exclude them from his life with Fred simply because he has a strained relationship with me.
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    Font - I believe that it's important for families to come together and support one another, especially during difficult times. James is a part of our family, and I want him to know that he is welcome to spend time with us, but not at the expense of my children's feelings or our family dynamic.
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    Font - I understand that James may be hurt, but I hope that he can see that our family is important to us, and that we want him to be a part of it.
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    Font - Rowanever 1 day ago 5 & 8 More Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] OK, so... • Your husband divorced James' mother to be with you. James, somewhat unsurprisingly, wants nothing to do with the person who helped to break up his parents. James refused to play Happy Families with the two of you.
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    Font - • Your husband has a tenuous relationship with James now. • You put extra tension on that relationship by demanding that your children be included in any meetings between your husband and James. • Your reasoning was that your children would feel left out if their father occasionally spent time with James without them. • Despite James not wanting to spend any time with his half-siblings, you somehow thought this was... going to be a healing move???
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    Font - Come off it. You've been sabotaging this parent-child relationship for 20 years. Can't you give it a rest? YTA.
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    Font - Geo_1997 1 day ago James just sees a home wrecker that wont leave him alone
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    Font - Spiritual_Anxiety_48 1 day ago I go that he sees an evil stepmother that plays sweet and caring while she a manipulative person. Her MIL sees through her BS and that's why she favors ex-wife.
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    Font - OP your children have a present father in their lives, day and night... James got a weekend or a sometimes dad and you want their relationship that it's on the rocks for almost all James's life suffer because your children can be without their dad for a few hours some days. I'm not surprised your husband went along with your scheme if he was not clever enough to see it when you meddle in his marriage.
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    Font - YTA let your husband rescue any form of relationship he can have with his son, because as I read your the bump in their road
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    Font - SeldomSeenMe. 1 day ago I think OP makes it quite clear that she sees James as a threat and wants him to be part of the family on her own terms or not at all, SO...

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